My Husband Wears My Clothes
by Peggy Rudd, Ed. D
PM Publishers (1990)
134 pages. softcover - ISBN-10: 0-9626762-5-X ISBN-13: 978-0962676253
From the Introduction
For nine years I have been married to a crossdresser,
a man who enjoys wearing women's clothing. In the case of my
husband it is frequently my clothing that is worn. Does that
seem strange to you? I must admit that it was difficult for me
to comprehend this most unusual practice. There was a time when
I wished that some morning I would wake up and the whole crossdressing
situation would be gone forever.
Today the expression, "Clothes don't make the
man," has a new meaning for us. My husband is as loveable
in my clothes as in his. In fact he seems to be a more complete
person when the feminine side of his personality is openly expressed
by wearing feminine clothes. For me acceptance and understanding
have been accomplished by reading, interacting with others who
crossdress, and being sensitive to my husband and his needs. .
. .
In writing this book I am not exalting or advocating
crossdressing. My purpose is to help eliminate many of the misconceptions.
Society has been repressive. This is because people do not
understand the true feelings and behavioral patterns of crossdressers.
What people do not understand, they tend to fear, and fear breeds
prejudice. As the reader grows in awareness my hope is that tolerance
and understanding will grow proportionately. I do not expect
readers to accept all of my thoughts and theories, but I do hope
that this subject can be approached with an open mind.
Contents
- THE CROSSDRESSER AND HIS PARENTS
Questions Asked by Parents of Crossdressers / How Can Parents
Help? / The Best 'Treatment' For Crossdressers / Research on
Crossdressing / The Age of Humanness
- IMPROVING THE MARRIAGE
Be Honest About Crossdressing / Be Patient / Help Around the
House / Be Best Friends With Your Wife / Don't Forget the Husband
and Wife Relationship / Help the Wife Accept Crossdressing /
What Happens if She Doesn't Accept? / What is the Ultimate Goal?
- THE CROSSDRESSER AND HIS CHILDREN
Maternal Instincts and the Crossdresser / My Advice to the Children
of Crossdressers / My Advice to Crossdressers / Case Studies
/ Self Affirmation / Helping the Family Win / Winners / Losers
/ Things Losers Tell Themselves
- THE EFFECTS OF SUPPRESSED FEMININITY
Breaking Away From Macho / Fusing the Gender Roles / The Love
of Femininity / Why Do Men Become Crossdressers? / The Need to
Experience Beauty and Acquire Virtue / The Need for Personality
Expression / Relief from the Requirements of Masculinity / Relief
from Being What Others Expect / Why Do Some Men Suppress Crossdressing?
- GETTING PROFESSIONAL HELP
What are the Options? / What are the Causes? / What Crossdressers
Should Understand / The Last Secret
- LEARNING TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND ENFEMME
Deal with your Emotions First / Help Him Feel Normal / Help Him
Feel Successful as a Man / Help Him Crystalize the Feminine Side
of the Personality / Love Him
- HELP FROM ORGANIZATIONS
Why Wives are Afraid to Join / Some Farewell Thoughts From Betty
/ United We Stand
About the Author
Peggy J. Rudd, Ed.D received her Doctoral Degree from the University
of Houston in Cultural Studies and Psychology. She has written
four books on the ever emerging topic of men and women who cross
gender lines. She serves on the Board of Directors of Tri-Ess
(the international organization of crossdressers and their significant
others), and is the Director of the Spouses and Partners International
Conference for Education (SPICE). She has conducted numerous workshops
and seminars on the topic of transgendered relationships and has
received many honors including the International Foundation for
Gender Education Trinity Award and the Tri-Ess Leader Servant
Award.
From the Publisher
My Husband Wears My Clothes, now in its second edition and
seventh printing, has become the number one book on the unique
topic of crossdressing and transgendered relationships. The author,
Dr. Peggy Rudd, describes both the positives and many of the concerns
and problems faced by wives and partners of crossdressers and
transgendered individuals and suggests solutions. This book is
a "must read" for anyone in a transgendered relationship
or anyone interested in the phenomenon of men and women who cross
gender lines. This book is frequenlty the first book to be read
when a spouse or partner discovers that her/his partner is a crossdresser.
Yes, there are many women who are crossdressers!
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